I had a dream where a large fish played a significant role which had me googling “What does a large fish represent in your dream?” The results to this inquiry where mixed telling me this could mean something really good about to happen but it could also mean something bad is about to happen. My google answers only created more questions. The larger question I was left with is how do I make more good things happen in my life? Or, how do I become lucky?
Lately I have shifted the question from what should I do but what could I do?
I just recently lost a big client that also means a significant lowering of my monthly income. This new information and change in my current circumstances has set of all kinds of clanging warning bells inside my psyche. This is what we would refer to usually as bad news and we would ask a friend in trembling tones “What should I do?” The problem with this is as soon as we ask this there is a narrowing down of choices to what we know from past experiences which may or may not be helpful now. It’s as if the very phrasing of what should I do signals a sort of panic and with it a shutting down of options. But when we change our question to what could I do now with this new information there is an opening up of possibilities. The change of wording is subtle but significant. I came across this helpful insight in Francesca Gino’s new book Rebel Talent.
I remind myself that failure and success are minted together as two sides of one coin.
Every time I begin a new relationship, a new painting or a new anything i want to remember that there will be false starts. It will feel good and then it will feel shitty. When I am working on a painting it sometimes just isn’t working and I have to change up and take a different approach. I know there are countless stories of very famous people who we think of as very successful who carried on through many many failures. I remember reading Dirty Boulevard: life and times of Lou Reed by Aidan Levy which makes it clear the Lou made great music along with some not so great music. From his time of getting shock treatment at the mental hospital to his life threatening heroin practice his life was littered with failure. I collect these stories because they remind me that I am in good company. Sometimes life seems to fall apart around us but if we can hold off freaking out out broken down lives can have an amazing way of reassembling themselves as well.
Attract good things with a good stuff homing signal.
When I use the phrase positive attitude I do so with some caution. I don’t mean creating some kind of pumped up weird energy that is never going to be sustainable. If we can just remember that hard times come and failures happened to John Kennedy’s and Judy Garlands we can learn to accept our failures with grace and carry on. When we stay positive and expect good things to eventually make their way to us as we keep on our chosen path we are sending out a homing signal for those very breakthrough experiences to be able to find us. Please keep sowing those good things in your life because they will eventually be rewarded.